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Apr 2023
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#65: "Can a relationship between two anx...

Stephanie Rigg
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In today's Q&A episode, I'm answering the question of "Can a relationship between two anxiously attached people work?". I get variations of this question a lot - basically, why wouldn't anxious and avoidant people save themselves the trouble by sticking to their own kind? Well, as always, it's not quite that simple... 

We'll cover:

  • why anxious and avoidant people tend to be attracted to each other
  • the truth behind why "opposites attract"
  • what happens when two anxious or two avoidant people date


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