Sep 8

#280: Why You Feel Jealous About Your Partner's Past (& How to Navigate It)

In today's episode, we're talking about retroactive jealousy — being an excessive preoccupation with a partner's romantic and/or sexual history, and feelings of intense insecurity and comparison as a result. This is a really common experience (one I used to struggle with myself!) ... Show More

15m 26s

Sep 1

#279: When an Old Love Resurfaces and Starts Pulling Away (Ask Steph)

This week's Ask Steph question comes from a 77 year old listener who recently reconnected with a man she loved 45 years ago, following the passing of her husband of 40 years. He was the one who got away, and their reunion felt like everything she'd hoped for... until he suddenly ... Show More

13m 45s

Aug 18

#278: How to Navigate Being Triggered by a Partner's Moodiness

In today's Ask Steph episode, I'm answering the listener question of "How do I navigate being triggered by my partner's moodiness and irritability?" This is such a common pain point for folks with anxious attachment patterns. I share some context as to why moodiness is so activat ... Show More

10m 21s

Jun 2022

#54: Can Anxious and Avoidant Relationships Really (Honestly) Work?

Can Anxiously-Attached and Avoidantly-Attached people really (1000% honestly) work in a relationship together? I've avoided talking about this for a long time, because I realized that a lot of people aren't going to like my answer. Bu ... Show More

27m 22s

Aug 2023

Why Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Attract Each Other

In this episode, I share why anxious and avoidant attachments are attracted to each other from an attachment lens, and how they can work towards creating a secure bond. These tips apply for all attachment style dynamics. ——— Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.co ... Show More

14m 54s

Sep 2021

Why Are Anxious and Avoidant Attachments Attracted To Each Other?

In this episode, I briefly share the psychology behind why anxious and avoidant attachments are attracted to each other. This is the most common attachment dynamic, however also the most complicated one due to subconscious factors. Hopefully this episode will give you some clarit ... Show More

9m 46s

Aug 2024

Managing Attachment Styles

Managing your attachment style and learning to deal with people’s attachment styles can be a long and stressful journey. The episode focuses more on the anxious-avoidant pair, as the combination seems very paradoxical that people with those styles even give up on working their fr ... Show More

30m 13s

May 2023

EP 334: Is it Love Addiction or an Anxious Attachment Style?

This episode was inspired by a conversation I overheard from two women. They were talking about: “Love Addiction and Sex Addiction.” Is it really an addiction, or is it your attachment style? Oftentimes anxious attachment FEELS like an addiction. Inside this episode I unpack: ... Show More

29 m

May 2025

Ending The Anxious/Avoidant Relational Deathtrap

Talking points: attachment, relationships, psychologyIf you're the more anxious type and you're dating someone more avoidant (or vice versa), it can create a whole realm of intensity that many people find hard to fathom. It's the best and worst of the old saying "opposites attrac ... Show More

18m 41s

Aug 2023

#32 - “Is it relationship anxiety…or are we incompatible?”

“Is it relationship anxiety…or are we incompatible?” is the #1 question I am asked as a relationship anxiety coach. In this episode, I share 2 frameworks to consider when answering this question, why ... Show More

48m 11s

Sep 2025

The Push-Pull and Navigating Second Chances

When you're in a relationship shaped by attachment insecurities, the questions are complex, urgent, and deeply personal. In this episode of Decoding Attachment, host Annalisa Bahadur tackles your real-world dilemmas with clarity and compassion, offering acti ... Show More

32m 7s

Jul 2022

Dealing With Attachment Styles + Will They Ever Change?

It's normal for us to date someone with a different attachment style from our own. But how do we know if someone is compatible with us longterm? And are there certain behaviours that tell us the relationship is ultimately doomed?In this episode, Matt, Stephen and Audrey discuss a ... Show More

1h 11m

Apr 2024

#19 - Attachment Theory: Insecure Attachment Styles (Part 2 of 4)

Can two people with an insecure attachment style ACTUALLY be together? How do the insecure attachment styles differ? What were the seminal studies that helped us to understand more about attachment theory? Do we need to 'fix' our attachment style? All these questions answered and ... Show More

32m 51s

#65: "Can a relationship between two anx...