Oct 27

#287: 5 Hard Truths for Avoidant Attachers

Preorder my book, The Secure Self If you have avoidant attachment patterns (or are partnered with someone who does), today's episode offers five truths about your patterns, blind spots, and protective mechanisms that, while perhaps hard to hear, are essential learning if you ulti ... Show More

18m 28s

Oct 21

#286: How to Deal With Lingering Thoughts About an Ex (Ask Steph)

Preorder my book, The Secure SelfHow do you stop your mind from thinking of your ex, even when the relationship is long over? In today's episode, I'm giving advice to a listener who is struggling with ongoing thoughts of their ex, a year on from the break-up. We'll talk about why ... Show More

12m 4s

Oct 15

#285: How to Respond to Inconsistency and Mixed Messages

Pre-order my book, The Secure Self Being on the receiving end of someone's inconsistent behaviour and mixed messages is a familiar experience for many people with anxious attachment patterns. And yet, the ways we habitually respond — by trying to solve the puzzle, gather informat ... Show More

23m 43s

Jun 2022

#54: Can Anxious and Avoidant Relationships Really (Honestly) Work?

Can Anxiously-Attached and Avoidantly-Attached people really (1000% honestly) work in a relationship together? I've avoided talking about this for a long time, because I realized that a lot of people aren't going to like my answer. Bu ... Show More

28m 12s

Aug 2023

Why Anxious and Avoidant Attachment Attract Each Other

In this episode, I share why anxious and avoidant attachments are attracted to each other from an attachment lens, and how they can work towards creating a secure bond. These tips apply for all attachment style dynamics. ——— Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.co ... Show More

14m 54s

Sep 2021

Why Are Anxious and Avoidant Attachments Attracted To Each Other?

In this episode, I briefly share the psychology behind why anxious and avoidant attachments are attracted to each other. This is the most common attachment dynamic, however also the most complicated one due to subconscious factors. Hopefully this episode will give you some clarit ... Show More

9m 46s

Aug 2024

Managing Attachment Styles

Managing your attachment style and learning to deal with people’s attachment styles can be a long and stressful journey. The episode focuses more on the anxious-avoidant pair, as the combination seems very paradoxical that people with those styles even give up on working their fr ... Show More

30m 13s

May 2023

EP 334: Is it Love Addiction or an Anxious Attachment Style?

This episode was inspired by a conversation I overheard from two women. They were talking about: “Love Addiction and Sex Addiction.” Is it really an addiction, or is it your attachment style? Oftentimes anxious attachment FEELS like an addiction. Inside this episode I unpack: ... Show More

29 m

May 2025

Ending The Anxious/Avoidant Relational Deathtrap

Talking points: attachment, relationships, psychologyIf you're the more anxious type and you're dating someone more avoidant (or vice versa), it can create a whole realm of intensity that many people find hard to fathom. It's the best and worst of the old saying "opposites attrac ... Show More

18m 41s

Aug 2023

#32 - “Is it relationship anxiety…or are we incompatible?”

“Is it relationship anxiety…or are we incompatible?” is the #1 question I am asked as a relationship anxiety coach. In this episode, I share 2 frameworks to consider when answering this question, why ... Show More

48m 11s

Sep 2025

The Push-Pull and Navigating Second Chances

When you're in a relationship shaped by attachment insecurities, the questions are complex, urgent, and deeply personal. In this episode of Decoding Attachment, host Annalisa Bahadur tackles your real-world dilemmas with clarity and compassion, offering acti ... Show More

32m 7s

Jul 2022

Dealing With Attachment Styles + Will They Ever Change?

It's normal for us to date someone with a different attachment style from our own. But how do we know if someone is compatible with us longterm? And are there certain behaviours that tell us the relationship is ultimately doomed?In this episode, Matt, Stephen and Audrey discuss a ... Show More

1h 11m

Apr 2024

#19 - Attachment Theory: Insecure Attachment Styles (Part 2 of 4)

Can two people with an insecure attachment style ACTUALLY be together? How do the insecure attachment styles differ? What were the seminal studies that helped us to understand more about attachment theory? Do we need to 'fix' our attachment style? All these questions answered and ... Show More

32m 51s

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