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Apr 2021
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#62 "How Do I Stop Being Self-Destructi...

Kati Morton, LMFT
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Ask Kati Anything #62 listener questions:
 
1/ Hi Kati, I'm 22 years old and have a rare genetic disease that is causing my body to fail. I've been sick since I was a baby. My digestive tract is paralysed so i have been tube fed for 3 years, with one tube going into my small intestine to give me nutrition, water, and medication, and another tube into my stomach to drain out the...

2/ Hi Kati! I would love to hear your thoughts on why therapists are so stubborn that their way of being a therapist is the only right way? For instance, I was watching another therapist here on youtube (don’t worry, I like your channel better) who was absolutely horrified, that a therapist in a tv show hugged a client at the end of a session, because she thinks there can be NO TOUCHING in the therapeutic relationship...

3/ Hey Kati, I've been in therapy for about 2,5 years and starting to finally feel like life is good and my brain doesn't spin off all the time (working on allowing myself to feel 'good' ) But I'm still struggling with my thoughts. They run so fast, trying to 'stop stop stop' them is like throwing a stop sign onto a highway...

4/ Hi Kati, Happy thursday! I'm just wondering if you could talk a little bit about being self-destructive and what that means in relation to our mental health. I always hear the word being ‘thrown around’ and I'm just wondering if you could explain...

5/ Hi Kati it been three months since I first asked this and I would really like an answer but I never get enough likes is it normal to put yourself aside and want to help others especially after a death of a loved one my (step) sister passed away last...

6/ Hi Kati. I have a question related to sexual trauma. Is it also called sexual abuse if it is done by someone you love and they didn't mean it badly or sexually? I had a parent who was very open about sexuality and wanted to break the taboo that...

7/ Hi, Kati. I’m embarrassed about asking these questions so I hope no one I know sees them! I had an emotionally unavailable mother growing up, when I was 16 I opened up to her about my male and female cousins sexually assaulting me on different occasions. I can’t seem to remember much about what her initial reaction was, but I remember she basically said I should let it go and I’ll feel better. Never again did I talk to her about anything, I suffered with depression, eating disorder, self harm, traumatic experiences, and suicidal thoughts for years! I’m now 23, and have come to a realization that throughout my life I have yearned for attention, affection, and love from older women who I tend to attract. These older women have been...

8/ Hi Kati! I’ve struggled with body image for five years. I was never fat or anything, other people actually liked my figure, but I just wanted to be skinny. I was eating really healthy and exercised moderately, but still I wasn’t skinny enough so one day I...

9/ Hi Kati. In your last episode with Cheryl Burke you talked about grooming and I was wondering if you could talk a bit more about the subject, including ways to heal if you've been groomed, especially if the situation with the abuser was better than with...

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