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Feb 2023
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(Rewind): "You Need To Be Happy Alone Be...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
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I don’t like it when I hear people say, “You need to be happy first before you find a relationship.” It’s not that the sentiment is a bad one, but saying to someone who is facing challenges in life that they need to be happy before they can be with someone seems highly unproductive to me. As if it’s not hard enough being alone when we want to find a partner . . . we now also have to achieve this elusive feeling of happiness before we do?! I’m here to tell you that you don’t need to be happy before you find a relationship . . . You just need to be “happy enough.” --- If you want to spend 3 days with me creating the conditions for your own happiness, then my next Virtual Retreat of 2023 is coming up fast! Head to MHVirtualRetreat.com to book your complimentary call with my Retreat Specialists who are on hand to hear your story (Special offer! $100 off the price if you get your spot booked before March 12th!)

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