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Jan 2023
30m 17s

The Science of Stuck and Understanding T...

SHERRY GABA AND CARLA ROMO
About this episode

This week starts off with Sherry vs. the Florida bugs, and then she and Carla answer a Love Fix question on when (if ever) you should go back to an ex. They then welcome Britt Frank, LSCSW, therapist, educator and trauma specialist. Britt speaks and writes widely about mental health myths that keep us stuck and stressed. Britt received her BA from Duke University and her MSW from the University of Kansas where she later became an award winning adjunct professor. 

 

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Sherry

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Carla

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Britt 

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Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love - a great holiday gift with the brand new digital version available! 

 

Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.

 

What You’ll Hear In This Episode:

  •  Somebody can change, and somebody can do the work, but it might not end up being what you need in a partner. 
  • What modalities does Britt work with as a trauma therapist? 
  • Britt shares why she uses the word “stuck” when it comes to trauma and people blocking their healing. 
  • What does it look like when someone is stuck in the freeze phase? 
  • What are examples of staying stuck in the past when it comes to relationships or when it comes to dating, or even breakups?
  • How long does it take to break patterns? 
  • What you can expect when you start doing inner work.
  • Why do we need the parts of ourselves that we actually hate?
  • When we have shame, it releases stress hormones. When we have love and compassion, it stops the cascade of stress.
  • What is no contact and how can we help move through the feelings of withdrawal it gives us? 
  • We need to understand that even the things that we think make us flawed have self protective functions.
  • How can we get out of shame for feeling codependent? 
  • More on Britt’s book, The Science of Stuck, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence.

 

Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.

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