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Nov 2023
29m 9s

When Present Triggers are Past Wounds wi...

SHERRY GABA AND CARLA ROMO
About this episode

Carla nurses her newly broken bone, and then she and Sherry take a Love Fix question from a listener whose boyfriend has photos of his ex on his phone. She's wondering if this is normal and just annoying, or super sketchy red flag behavior. They then welcome Tess McMechan, a Certified Somatic and Trauma Integration Practitioner. Tess works one-on-one with people to help them identify the root cause of why they are suffering, heal their trauma, break cycles, and deprogram conditionings. In the conversation, Tess talks about how and why red flags in relationships often stem from past trauma, and what we can do about it. She also talks about the inspiration behind her audiobook release for her new book, "Breaking Free: Empowering Yourself Beyond Victimhood."

 

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What You'll Hear In This Episode:

  • When we pick partners, we tend to mirror our relationships with our parents.

  • How do we know when we are triggered in the present moment if it's really stemming from a past wound?

  • Tess shares some ways she helps her clients learn to self-soothe and work through abandonment issues.

  • What are some things we can notice when dating that may later turn out to be red flags?

  • Why do we seem to attract the same (very wrong) type of person repeatedly?

  • What trauma responses can look like in relationships.

  • How miscommunication about triggers and trauma can end relationships.

  • Can two codependents heal together?

  • The importance of individual work and awareness in healing codependency in relationships.

 

Disclaimer: The Love Fix Podcast content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. The Love Fix Podcast is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. The Love Fix podcast does not constitute medical consultation or treatment, health insurance does not apply.

 

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