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Oct 2022
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Why Is Adult Friendship So Hard? 5 Lies ...

Mel Robbins
About this episode

A survival guide to adult friendship: how to find your people, have more fun, and create meaningful friendships as an adult.

 

This is the topic you and everyone else are thinking about.

 

From making new friends to staying connected to your old ones, to the thing that’s really hard: what do you do when your friendships start to fade?

 

This is something I’ve been dying to talk to you about because I am right here, shoulder to shoulder with you, feeling lonely, left out, and wondering…

Where did all my friends go?

 

I know I’m not the only one because when I do see my friends or meet someone new, everyone is talking about how they never see their friends anymore.

 

Let’s fix that.

 

I spent a lot of time reflecting on the things that I’m doing that keep me from putting myself out there (which I know I need to do) and did extensive research on the topic.

 

What I discovered is both comforting and empowering. I can’t wait to share it with you.

 

I can boil all of this research down to the 5 lies you and I tell ourselves about friendship.

 

These lies are keeping you from having the best relationships of your life.

 

That’s why you need to hear them.

 

So did I.

 

You also need to hear the truth bombs I’m dropping and the smarty pants research I found to back it all up.

 

Because once you stop repeating these lies, your life will open up again.

 

You’ll have an easier time finding, making, and strengthening your relationships with friends. 

 

And most importantly, your friendships will align with who you really are and what you really want in this chapter of your life.

 

Today it’s just you and me, friend to friend, figuring sh*t out together.

 

So let’s go.

 

Xo Mel

 

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