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Jul 2015
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How to be more social and make friends e...

SEBASTIAAN VAN DER SCHRIER
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Our popular online coaching program guiding you all the way from social anxiety to social confidence is now OPEN! You can sign up from 24th Feb to 29th Feb midnight EST! Use this opportunity to secure one of the limited spots and be guided to social confidence in the most effective and gentle way, from the comfort of your own home! All info at bit.ly/socialconfidenceclub P.S. Don’t hesitate and go there now! We only open the Club once a year for 5 days! Use this chance!! --- Teun is "effortlessly socially confident". And it's likely not what you think it is. Teun is a friend I met while living in Chiang Mai. He's someone who embodies "effortless social confidence" and I've personally learned a lot from him, just by spending time with him. 

In this interview I'm asking him questions to get into his mindset, to uncover his beliefs, to see why he's so comfortable with himself, and what he does (strategies, what to say, what to do, etc) to make friends easily and have a great time socially.

Teun is someone who's traveled to a wide variety of countries, traveled from the Netherlands to India in a red disabled car (that only goes 45km per hour!), lived in various countries, and has an amazing social life with friends all over the world.

In this interview Teun shares:

  • How he meets new people
  • The one simple questions he asks when meeting someone new that’s low key, no-pressure and easy
  • The easiest way to makes friends naturally
  • How he deals with disapproval
  • How he starts creating a new social life from scratch
  • What website to use to make friends easily

QUOTE: People don’t judge you on on situation or one comment you make. If people do this, they’re not the kind of people you want in your life. 

Show notes page 12 shortcusts to social confidence and worldclass content on how to free yourself of social anxiety forever: http://www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/

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Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others? And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?

You’re not alone. I’ve been there. It sucks. Big time. But there’s hope. I’ve been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety... ... and I’ve helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too.

Thankfully, there’s a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it.

It won’t happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly. And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free. Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears.

Ready to get started on your journey to Social Confidence?

Here are your first steps: 1.) Follow this Podcast and always get the latest episodes!

2.) Go to https://bit.ly/socialconfidencepodcast and receive access to a short transformational video to reduce your anxiety immediately. AND you’ll also get my FREE “7 Secrets to Social Confidence” Mini Course.

3.) Let’s connect! • SUBSCRIBE to my YouTube channel https://www.youtube.com/@Social-anxiety-solutions • FB https://www.facebook.com/socialanxietysolutions • IG https://www.instagram.com/socialanxietysolutions • Twitter https://twitter.com/socialanxietysb

All the best on your journey to effortless social ease.

Warm regards, Seb

 

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