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Sep 2015
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How to make dating comfortable and safe

SEBASTIAAN VAN DER SCHRIER
About this episode

"People now react differently to me"

The words of Cathy Vartuli, who didn't date for 13 years because she's a 320 pound woman who was afraid to get rejected for her weight. She did a session with an expert and two weeks later she was dating and has been on hundreds of dates since.

In this interview, Cathy (who is a sex-positive Emotional Freedom Coach who helps people transform their traumas into their greatest strengths using love, laughter and inner guidance) shares her story. She for example says:

"I had all the fears about how I looked. As I worked through it, I realised all of us have insecurities. And that was a big A-HA moment. I thought I was the only person in the world that felt awkward and out of place and everybody else was fine. Because I can't see in other people's heads, I had this belief that they had it all together and it was just me that's messed up. When I started letting go of that enough to get closer to people I realised everybody feels awkward."

And she also shares:

1. How much self acceptance has to do with dating
2. What she did to make dating safe for herself and how you can make it safe and fun
3. How to take the pressure off dating

QUOTE: I showed the thing I most wanted to hide and when I did that people were inspired and my life has transformed since then. 

Cathy's show notes page (www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/cathy/)

My homepage
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com

Contact me directly: 
www.social-anxiety-solutions.com/contact/

Warm regards,
Sebastiaan van der Schrier

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Do you feel awkward in social situations? Do you struggle to be yourself around others?
And do you fear being judged, being seen anxious, and embarrassing yourself?

You're not alone.
I've been there. It sucks. Big time.
But there's hope. I've been fortunate enough to overcome my Social Anxiety...
... and I've helped hundreds of socially anxious clients overcome their struggles too.

Thankfully, there's a gentle, powerful, and effective solution to beat it.

It won't happen overnight, but with certain techniques and strategies, you can reduce your Social Anxiety quickly.
And with persistence, you can become completely anxiety-free.
Without needing to force yourself to awkwardly face your fears.

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All the best on your journey to effortless social ease.

Warm regards,
Seb

 

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