This is an episode for anyone who is spending a whole lot of time and energy fixated on the habits, thoughts, or faults of a person they have a relationship with. Maybe that is a partner, parent, friend or a sibling. Regardless, this relationship is lopsided: you do all the things and they do not. Let’s say you are a caregiver type: you know how to make othe ... Show More
Sep 25
Ep 285: Can vs. Should: The little engine that needs relief
Yes, you think you can, but should you? If you are a “doer” who tends to do lots for everyone else, there is likely a part of you that is stuck in that position. It’s one that feels bound by duty and the expectations of others, yet it’s conditioned and created by us. But it almos ... Show More
48m 34s
Sep 11
Ep 284: The Safe Container: Moving from Healed + Higher
The hardest thing to do is be guided by the highest self versus the weakest, triggered self. The weakest self wants a fix: wants to self-soothe in the face of a low feeling. When we can create a strong routine and a safe container, we can be guided by our highest, wisest self and ... Show More
45m 10s
Oct 2025
Stop Giving More Than You Get in Relationships
If you keep feeling drained in your relationships — like you're giving more than you get — this episode will shift everything. Whether it’s friendships, family, or your partner, there’s one powerful mindset that can help you protect your energy, create emotional balance, and stop ... Show More
6m 22s
Jun 2023
Work on yourself so much until they're not your type anymore
<p>If you're overly consumed by the idea of a person instead of focusing on yourself, this episode is for you. We get so caught up and easily fixated on a new relationship, or a partner that isn't giving us the love we deserve, and it becomes an ultimate form of distracti ... Show More
25m 6s
Nov 2022
How to Stop Rushing + Obsessing Over Your Relationships
Have you ever found yourself obsessing, spiraling, and rushing your relationships? Maybe you've spent way to much time overanalyzing his texts, stalking his social media, or giving a guy way to much mental real estate. In today's episode, I'm going to help you reclaim your inner ... Show More
15m 22s
Aug 2021
56. Stop Giving Your Power Away
<p>Stop Giving Your Power Away</p>
<p>How putting everyone’s needs ahead of your own could be sabotaging your relationship and your mental health.</p>
<p>Break free from overwhelm, feel supported, and take your power back.</p>
<p>In this episode, I share some of my story and how ... Show More
11m 44s
May 2024
Recovering From Codependency
In this episode, John and Vanessa talk about recovering from codependency. They talk about the steps you need to take, such as having awareness and setting boundaries, what recovering from codependency really looks like in your life and relationships, and how recovery doesn't hap ... Show More
16m 59s