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Aug 2022
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Changing Your Relationship to Shame

RICK HANSON, PH.D., FORREST HANSON
About this episode
Shame is one of the most complex and difficult emotions we experience on a regular basis, and one that can have seriously negative impacts on our sense of self-worth and ability to experience healthy connection with others. On this episode of Being Well, Dr. Rick and Forrest Hanson take a deep dive into what shame is, how it develops, and what distinguishes ... Show More
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