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Mar 2018
14m 30s

19. Shame

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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Today on Unf*ck Your Brain, I'm talking about something I know all of you have felt at one time or another. In fact, it is such a universal part of the human condition, it has been called the "most human emotion" and that is shame. Learn how to question your shame and start building the skills to remove it from your life completely.

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