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Apr 2021
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180. Philosophy = Self Help + Why It Mat...

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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Do you ever feel shame scanning the self-help aisle of the bookstore? Do you roll your eyes when you see life coaches offering self-help courses on your IG/FB feed? It may surprise you, but the embarrassment or shame you feel toward self help is 100% internalized patriarchy. In today’s episode, you will learn why self help has more in common with ancient philosophical traditions than with self-indulgent spa trips, and why your own self-help practice is so important.

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