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Sep 2021
15m 52s

How To Support Your Avoidant Partner

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
About this episode
In this episode, I share 5 ways in how you can best support your avoidant partner. We go deep into understanding their attachment traumas, the result of these traumas, and how other attachment types (especially anxious styles) can live more harmoniously with their avoidant partner. ———My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-se ... Show More
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