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Oct 2019
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Ep. 5 - When the distractions stop worki...

Breakup Coach Dorothy
About this episode

If you’re anything like me during a breakup, you’ve jammed your schedule full of things to do to avoid being alone and feeling your loneliness. I would try to distract myself until I had to sleep so that I wouldn’t have to sit with my own thoughts by myself.

 

But what happens when the distractions stop working? Or we can’t use a distraction? We must sit with our thoughts and learn how to handle our negative and painful emotions.

 

Our life is 50% positive and 50% negative. Learning how to experience the 50% negative without avoiding, resisting and reacting to it is vital to your human experience on this earth.

 

We must learn how to FEEL an emotion, to process it in a way that doesn’t keep recreating our past and therefor eliminates the need to distract ourselves.

 

In this episode:

  • The 50/50 experience and how it plays out in a breakup
  • What you might be distracting yourself with now and don’t even realize
  • What to do when you stop distracting yourself
  • The step by step to FEEL an emotion
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