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May 2022
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155. Re-parenting, Gentle Parenting with...

Beatrice Kamau
About this episode

Chances are you’ve likely heard about the new trend in parenting- gentle parenting. While it may sound permissive or ineffective, if you really look into it, it’s the natural response to the inherent violence that has been culturally accepted in previous generations.

In the latest episode of The Self-Love Fix Podcast I have a chance to talk with Leslie of LatinX parenting and go over:

  • Why violence is culturally accepted in parenting
  • The tenants of gentle parenting
  • Respect > fear

Blind obedience through fear is not helping our children learn how to process difficult emotions, and it is a breeding ground for future emotional issues and resentments. It can be hard to find other ways when we were most likely brought up by parents who never modeled apologizing for the sake of repair or connection- the emphasis was on obedience at all costs. Our parents wanted to win, no matter how it ultimately affected us as people, and our relationship with them.

We don’t need to be perfect all the time to raise thoughtful and compassionate children; we simply have to always try and honor the person they are becoming while understanding that when we “lose it”, it’s actually a wonderful opportunity to show them accountability. 

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Connect with Leslie Priscilla on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/latinxparenting/

 

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