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May 2021
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#14: When love hurts: Are you in a Traum...

Gloria Zhang, MA
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Is love supposed to hurt? Is it normal to feel emotionally attached to a person who hurts you, keeps making empty promises to change, and yet you find yourself staying anyway? In today's episode, we're talking about trauma bonds and why it's not actually "love", but an attachment trauma response. Screenshot this episode with your biggest takeaways, and tag ... Show More
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