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May 2021
21m 21s

#14: When love hurts: Are you in a Traum...

Gloria Zhang, MA
About this episode

Is love supposed to hurt? Is it normal to feel emotionally attached to a person who hurts you, keeps making empty promises to change,  and yet you find yourself staying anyway? In today's episode, we're talking about trauma bonds and why it's not actually "love", but an attachment trauma response. Screenshot this episode with your biggest takeaways, and tag me on Instagram @bygloriazhang!

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Episode Highlights:

  • 3 Warning Signs that you're actually in a Trauma Bond relationship
  • "Fawn" - One type of trauma response where you emotionally attach onto the person who has hurt you
  • The importance of honoring your instincts and "Inner GPS" instead of gaslighting yourself 
  • Understand the Inner Child roots on why trauma bonds may have actually started with the relationship you had with your parents, and has become "normal" for you
  • Call to Action: Three actionable tips on how to break the cycle of trauma bonds, and prepare your Inner Child for loving, intimate relationships

Hey bestie! My mission is to help High-Achievers and people-pleasers heal their Inner Child and find healthy love, especially those who desire an extraordinary connection but often struggle in their relationships. 

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