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Apr 2021
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Sex + Intimacy | How do you know if you'...

THE PSYCHOLOGY SISTERS
About this episode

Hello friends!

Today we have a very insightful and important conversation to share with you all.

We are delighted to have Dr Sarah Ashton (psychologist, founder + director of SHIPS psychology in Melbourne) on this episode, who answers some of our listener questions around 'How to know if you're enjoying sex'.

Sarah has presented her research on pornography at Australian and international conferences, is a published author in prestigious journals, regularly writes articles for The Conversation, and has stared as a guest on Podcasts Sex Bi The Bi, ABC radio, Triple J - The Hook Up, Equity Mates podcast Meet Pay Love, and Ladies We Need to Talk. She is also the Coordinator for the Victorian Sexual and Mental Health Network. Sarah sees reducing shame around sexuality as her personal and professional purpose.

Sarah shares her insight into sex and intimacy and we hope that this conversation normalises some of the questions and fears we may have around sex and intimacy.

We hope you enjoy this episode as much as we enjoyed recording it!
Kat + Aimee


SHIPS website: https://www.shipspsychology.com.au/dr-sarah-ashton

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