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Apr 18
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Episode 389: How To Improve Your Sexual ...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode

In long-term relationships, sexual satisfaction usually starts dropping after the first year as the initial burst of passion begins to wear down. However, this decline in satisfaction is both preventable and reversible. In today’s show, we’re going to talk about how bring excitement back into the bedroom by exploring the biggest predictors of sexual satisfaction.

My guest is Dr. Tara, an associate professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton. She is also a sex and relationship coach and host of the podcast Luvbites by Dr. Tara.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

  • How many people today are actually satisfied with their sex lives?
  • What are the key factors that contribute to sexual satisfaction?
  • What are some practical things we can do to boost sexual self-esteem?
  • How can we learn to be more mindful during sex?
  • What are some ways to make sexual communication easier?

You can check out Dr. Tara’s website to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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