A lot of us aren’t getting what we really want in bed. For example, there might be certain positions, activities, or techniques that you prefer or enjoy, but you aren’t quite sure how to ask for them. So in today’s show, we’re going to talk about how to get more of what you want. Some of the topics we’ll explore include practical tips for sharing your sexual desires, tips for introducing a kink or fetish into a relationship, as well as tips for normalizing conversations about sex in general.

I am joined once again by Dr. Elisabeth Gordon. She is a board-certified psychiatrist who specializes in sexual health. She maintains a New York City based private practice and is also an educator, speaker, researcher, and writer dedicated to advancing sexual health. She has taught at multiple academic institutions around the world, and is a frequent commentator on sexual health topics in the popular media.

Some of the specific questions we answer in this episode include:

How do you go about uncovering your sexual likes and dislikes in the first place?
When is the right time to talk to your partner about trying something new in the bedroom?
What are some tips for communicating about kinks with a new partner?
What should you do when you and your partner have different sexual fantasies and desires?
How can you encourage a partner to share their sexual wants with you?

You can check out Elisabeth’s website to learn more about her work.

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