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Feb 2025
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Episode 370: The Science of Sexual Pleas...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode

How do you define sexual pleasure? For some people, it simply means orgasm. But orgasm isn’t the only way we derive pleasure from sex! In this episode, we’re going to dive into the many and varied forms of sexual pleasure that exist, common barriers to experiencing pleasure, and how to get more pleasure from sex. We’ll also discuss tips for cultivating a more satisfying sex life.

I am joined once again by Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons, an award-winning Associate Professor at Emory University’s Rollins School of Public Health, where she studies sexual wellness and liberation. With over 70 published articles, Dr. Hargons has made substantial contributions to the field. Her debut book titled, Good Sex, is now in print.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

  • What all does sexual pleasure entail?
  • What holds us back from experiencing sexual pleasure?
  • Why don’t women have the same expectations of sexual pleasure as men?
  • How is sexual satisfaction different from sexual pleasure?
  • What are some of the factors that affect whether individual feel satisfied with their sex lives?

You can check out Candice’s website to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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