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Apr 2025
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Episode 390: What It’s Like To Go To A S...

DR. JUSTIN LEHMILLER
About this episode

A few years back, there were a ton of media articles going around about how the pandemic killed the sex party scene. Flash forward to today, and sex parties are back with a vengeance. So what is it actually like to attend a sex party? In today’s show, we’re going to explore the world of sex parties and what you need to know if you’re thinking about attending one.

I am joined once again by Dr. Tara, an associate professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton. She is also a sex and relationship coach and host of the podcast Luvbites by Dr. Tara.

Some of the specific topics we explore include:

  • What does a sex party involve? What’s the atmosphere like?
  • What’s the difference between a sex party and an orgy?
  • How does consent work in a group setting?
  • What are the typical rules or etiquette of a sex party?
  • How do you even find a sex party to attend in the first place?
  • What do you need to do to prepare for attending a sex party?

You can check out Dr. Tara’s website to learn more about her work.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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