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Jun 2021
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119: If You've Ever Felt “Not Good Enoug...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

Last week, we talked about how the right partner will “elevate your best and soothe your worst.”

But what if you feel like your best isn’t good enough? Or you’re afraid your worst will be “too much” for someone?

In this situation, it can be tempting to overcorrect—to go overboard in your efforts to impress someone until they finally discover what you’re “really like.”

In this week’s new episode, I’ll teach you how to shift from looking at yourself through a lens of self-judgment, self-loathing, and self-hatred, and instead view yourself from a place of self-compassion, self-love, and self-empowerment.

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