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Feb 2020
52m 43s

Dealing with our emotions when we feel t...

CINDY HOVINGTON, PH.D.
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Send us a text As parents, we can feel triggered by our baby crying for long periods of time, by our toddler acting out or by our 5-year-old ignoring us. We can’t control if and when a trigger will happen, but we can control how we react to triggers. My conversation with Bryana, Director of South Bay Mommy and me, is all about how we regulate ourselves. We d ... Show More
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