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Feb 2020
52m 43s

Dealing with our emotions when we feel t...

CINDY HOVINGTON, PH.D.
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As parents, we can feel triggered by our baby crying for long periods of time, by our toddler acting out or by our 5-year-old ignoring us. We can’t control if and when a trigger will happen, but we can control how we react to triggers. My conversation with Bryana, Director of South Bay Mommy and me, is all about how we regulate ourselves. We discuss what you can do to learn more about “why” you are responding a certain way to triggers, how certain ways of responding to a trigger can impact a child’s behavior, how you can bring yourself back down to a state of calm when you are triggered and how our past/upbringing can play into the way in which we respond to triggers.


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