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2029: Angry? Don't Lose it. Use It! by D...

Optimal Living Daily | Greg Audino
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Episode 2029:

Dr. Laura Markham's article, "Angry? Don't Lose it. Use It!" from Aha Parenting.com, emphasizes the importance of managing anger, especially in parenting. It discusses how children perceive our anger and the negative impact it can have. Markham advises against acting out when triggered and offers strategies to transform anger into a learning opportunity. By understanding the underlying causes of our reactions, we can develop better emotional regulation, providing a healthier environment for both ourselves and our children, and setting a positive example in emotional management.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://www.ahaparenting.com/read/Self-Care-When-Your-Kids-Push-Your-Buttons

Quotes to ponder:

"When we're angry, it's because we think we need to protect ourselves from some threat."

"Resist acting when you're triggered."

"The paradox is that the child seems to be creating the problem, but when we work on our part of it, the problem always diminishes."

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