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Feb 2023
16m 55s

When Our Kids Make Mistakes

MICHELLE KENNEY, M. ED
About this episode
As parents, we naturally resort to correction, yelling, punishments, and even shame when our kids make mistakes. But these actions often convey that our love for them depends on their behavior. Listen in today as Michelle helps you understand how to show your kids unconditional love when moments get tough.   Working with individuals and couples is my most fa ... Show More
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