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Jan 2016
3m 58s

My Insecurity Messed Up My Relationship

LUCIA
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What should you do if you're insecure, maybe even paranoid, that your partner is going to cheat?  Should you spy on them?  Should you confess your feelings?  Dating/relationship expert Lucia explains how to deal with this fear when it shows up in your love life.

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