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Nov 2023
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#47 - Should You Tell Your Partner About...

Sarah Yudkin
About this episode

Should you tell your partner about your relationship anxiety? If so, how?

I’m often asked questions like: "How much should you disclose about your relationship anxiety to your partner to avoid making them feel bad or scared?"

Today I’m answering that question and telling you:

  • 3 things to consider before going to your partner about your anxiety
  • 3 things to consider if you do decide to have a conversation about your anxiety
  • A script you can use when you tell your partner (if you decide to)
  • What to do if they respond badly

…and more.

 

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This is for you if you are in a relationship that you really want to work out yet your anxiety gets in the way, and you know that having someone who’s been in your shoes to guide and support you as you learn to navigate moments of anxiety would be invaluable.

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