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Apr 2020
21m 33s

127. How to Know What You Want

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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Join me this week as I break down what it means to want something, the fundamental motivation for why you want something if you have an unmanaged mind, and two exercises you can use to determine what you actually want. I’ll also be diving into how women especially use thought work against themselves in deciding what they want for their lives.

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