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Feb 2018
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15. Compare and Despair

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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On this episode of Unf*ck Your Brain, I want to talk about why we constantly compare ourselves to others - even though it makes us feel bad - and the role two major societal systems have in perpetuating the issue, especially for women. Join me as I explain why constantly comparing yourself to others is a problem and how you can learn to stop.

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