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Jan 2024
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#127: How to Stop Comparing Yourself to ...

Stephanie Rigg
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In today's episode, we're talking all about comparison. Comparison is one of those things that we're all susceptible to at some point or another: we compare ourselves based on appearance, personality, success, relationships. It can sometimes seem like there's a neverending list of reasons to feel dissatisfied or inadequate when we look at our lives relative to someone else's. 

And yet, while comparison is arguably a universal human experience, it's undeniable that some of us struggle with the comparison trap more than others - sometimes to the point where it feels debilitating and destructive to our sense of self.

We'll cover:

  • why some people are more susceptible to the comparison trap than others
  • how this tendency interfaces with other struggles like unworthiness, jealousy, anxious attachment, and fear of abandonment
  • how building our self-worth can help us to shift focus away from others and build more genuine self-confidence

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