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Jan 2021
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#217: Big Struggles with Perfectionism &...

Erin Royer, MA Clinical Psychology, Child Development Specialist
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What do you do when your child is constantly struggling with reactions to life not going perfectly their way? Playing the martyr and lots of tears when they get corrected over the smallest things? In this week's episode Erin gives lots of tips for a family dealing with just these types of over-reactions.



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