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May 2024
18m 22s

Dealing with Toddler Defiance and Aggres...

Erin Royer, MA Clinical Psychology, Child Development Specialist
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Toddlerhood is the first big push for independence and with that often comes defiance. How do we support independence while also setting healthy boundaries? One mom asks for some guidance on dealing with her toddler's defiance, while another asks about how to deal with her toddler's aggression in the form of pinching. Listen to learn how to deal with these two common toddler behaviors!



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