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Jan 2018
40m 56s

What To Say When You Talk To Yourself

Kristen and Jolenta
About this episode
We all talk to ourselves, right? But when we do, are we being as kind as we should? Jolenta and Kristen examine their own self talk - and try to improve it, of course - with the help of the classic bestseller What To Say When You Talk To Yourself, by Shad Helmstetter. We love hearing from you! Reach out at 419-869-BOOK; email us at bythebook@panoply.fm; Twee ... Show More
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