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In today’s episode we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to deal with mismatched sexual desires in a relationship. (#1 reason couples struggle sexually in relationships) Reducing sexual anxiety in oneself and in a relationship. The importance of sexual knowledge. Sex to reduce headaches and why you should 'Just Do It'. Communication s ... Show More
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