logo
episode-header-image
Jul 2022
34m 54s

How We Found Sexual Satisfaction with Di...

Impact Theory
About this episode

Dealing with mismatched sex drives can be horrifying, frustrating and a host of other undesired emotions for both partners. How do you find compromise when one partner is in the mood every day, any time ready to go, and the other partner could check in once or twice a week and be perfectly satisfied? In this episode, Tom & Lisa break down advice, solutions, and examples from their own relationship for how to deal with mismatched libidos. They discuss everything from frequency, porn, and orgasms all the way to being absolutely transparent about just wanting to be desired.


SHOW NOTES:

Neurochemical Sex Drive | Understanding frequency urges are related to hormones [1:17]

Solution | Dealing with high sex drive and what it means to accommodate a partner [2:53]

Sexually Satisfied | Finding compromise to satisfy each other for mutual benefit [5:02]

Orgasmic Pull | Considering what your partner wants and the bond of orgasm [8:03]

Foreplay | Getting her in the mood begins outside of the bedroom [10:58]

Porn | How viewing porn and received with resistance from some parters as bad [13:22]

Okay To Ask | How Tom & Lisa have agreed it’s okay to ask and it’s okay to say no [16:29]

Open Dialogue | When there is a reason for concern having open communication [19:00]

Desirable | Real talk with Tom & Lisa about changing sex drives and being desirable [21:06]

Men Vs. Women | Tom on the relation between feeling connected, sex, and erection [25:43]

Checking In | Lisa’s advice for regular check-ins with each other about sex and more [27:35]


Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact?

Calling all Badasses!! If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be! 

Women of EXTRA Impact Subscription Benefits:

  • New episodes delivered ad-free
  • Exclusive access to listen to Women of Impact round table discussions, weekly motivation, previously unreleased episodes, and more! 
  • Subscriber-only access to an additional 4 podcasts with hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists, and updated weekly.
  • Looking to boost your confidence? Check out the Get Confident playlist. 
  • Want to repair and heal your relationships? Start with Love Lab. 
  • Curious about your health? We’ve got you covered in Health Hub. 
  • And of course, weekly boosts of mini-motivation from Lisa herself that'll have you strutting through life with your head held high on the Badass Boosts playlist 

Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary!

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP

Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Up next
Yesterday
Why Nice Girls Finish Last: The 8 Step Playbook for Women Who Are DONE Being Overlooked | Dr. Thema Bryant PT 1
In this powerful episode of Women of Impact, Lisa Bilyeu welcomes the trailblazing psychologist, author, and current President of the American Psychological Association, Dr. Thema Bryant. Renowned for her expertise in trauma recovery and healing, Dr. Thema joins Lisa to dive into ... Show More
41m 53s
Jul 8
Burnout. Overthinking. People-pleasing. These Hidden Habits Are Destroying Your Confidence | Dr. Nicole LePera (Fan Fav)
This is a Fan Fav episode. I’m sitting down again with the incredible Dr. Nicole LePera—The Holistic Psychologist—for a radically honest conversation about self-sabotage, self-betrayal, and how our subconscious habits keep us stuck for YEARS if we don’t wake up and intervene. Dr. ... Show More
44m 21s
Jul 7
Raised to Stay Small, Taught to Obey—Here’s How She Took Her Power Back and Rewrote the Rules | Julia Haart (Fan Fav)
This is a Fan Fav episode. From growing up in a world where women were told to disappear and serve—and taught their worth was only found in silence and subservience—to writing a book called Brazen and stepping into the world as an empowered entrepreneur, Julia Haart’s story is on ... Show More
57m 23s
Recommended Episodes
Jun 2020
255: Common Sexual Challenges And How To Overcome Them
Having sex is not as straight forward as it may seem, especially in long term relationships. Our personal sexual history, combined with another individual's personal sexual history, can make things quite complicated! Listen to today's show to learn how to navigate the sexual chal ... Show More
44m 50s
Jun 2020
253: How To Have Better Sex Now!
Sex is an important part of any healthy relationship. Listen to this episode for some great new tips on how to improve your sex life, especially during these challenging times. In this episode, we discuss relationship advice topics that include: How to improve your sex life if yo ... Show More
39m 3s
Jun 2022
358: How To Increase Pleasure And Get In Touch With Your Sexuality
Who doesn't want to feel more pleasure!? Listen to today's show for some amazing, actionable tips to increase your pleasure, get in touch with your sexuality and start to have mind-blowing sex. In this episode with Nicoletta Heidegger, we discuss relationship advice topics that i ... Show More
43m 9s
Jun 2021
303: Understanding The Different Reasons We Have Sex
The more we understand our biology and psychology, the better we can show up in our relationships. Listen to today's show to better understand the reasons we have sex, and how to use this knowledge to improve our relationships. In this episode with Carolin Hauser, we discuss rela ... Show More
42m 9s
Oct 2019
222: Create More Sexual Intimacy In Your Relationship
Do you feel deeply connected to your partner sexually? Some couples have a sexual spark from the beginning, some build it over time, some never address it and others find it unimportant. Wherever you fall on that spectrum, there are tools to help create more sexual intimacy in yo ... Show More
42m 52s
Jun 2021
306: Overcoming A Sexless Marriage
We often think the experts have everything figured out in their relationships and marriages. The reality is they're just like most people! They share the same struggles, argue about who cleans the dishes and get on each other's nerves. Listen to today's show to learn from Dr. Hea ... Show More
34m 1s
Jan 2023
386: Secrets Of Sex And Marriage
We all want to have better sex lives, but it's not always easy to make that happen. Understanding the research around desire, arousal and our biology can go a long way in helping us improve our sex lives. Listen to today's show to learn some key tools and insights that will help ... Show More
42m 37s
Feb 2022
338: Techniques to Improve Your Sex Life And Connection
Creating and sustaining sexual connection can be a difficult task in our relationships. It can take deliberate, conscious work to reestablish a spark of connection. Don't wait for it to happen on it's own because it won't! Listen to today's show to learn how to crate more sexual ... Show More
47m 31s
Dec 2020
278: Finding Pleasure In Your Relationship And With Yourself
Relationships and life can take up a lot of our time and energy. It's important to find the time for pleasure in your life even when a busy schedule may make it seem impossible. Listen to today's show to learn the tools for finding pleasure and improving your relationship. In thi ... Show More
48m 57s
Oct 2020
272: Understanding Our Sexual Needs For A Better Relationship
We all have ideal sexual ideas for what we'd like to see in our relationship. Often these ideals are not met, or understood, resulting in relationship issues. Listen to today's show to learn how to identify your sexual needs, communicate them with your partner and improve your re ... Show More
40m 24s