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May 6
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EP437 - Tell Me What You Want: Tips for ...

Dr. Nazanin Moali, Ph.d, Psychology Of Sex | Couple Therapy | Sex Education
About this episode

Welcome to Episode 437 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Brittany Steffen, LMFT, who speaks to me about how couples can navigate and deepen their sexual communication. 


In this episode, Brittany and I discuss the kinds of conversations couples should be having but often aren’t, especially when it comes to sex. We talk about the importance of discussing how and when to initiate sex, redefining what “counts” as sex, and how understanding each other’s intentions can greatly enhance intimacy. 


Brittany Steffen is the owner and founder of Steffen Counseling Services. She earned her graduate degree in marriage and family therapy from Seattle Pacific University in 2012 and has worked as a therapist in the Seattle area for over a decade. In 2018, she began the process of becoming an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist to meet the growing demand for specialized sex therapy services.


In this episode, you will hear:


·      Top Three Conversations Every Couple Should Have About Sex

·      How To Navigate Desire Discrepancy Without Blame

·      Shifting From Yes/No Sex to a Menu of Possibilities

·      Why Defining “Sex” Broadly Can Improve Intimacy

·      Understanding the Emotional Weight of Sexual Rejection

·      How To Talk About Fantasies Without Pressure or Shame

·      Requests vs. Demands: A Key Distinction in Sexual Communication

·      Common Traps That Lead to Sexual Conflict in Long-Term Relationships

·      How Self-Reflection Can Improve Your Sex Life

 


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