In this episode of From Borderline to Beautiful, Rose Skeeters explains how thoughts can shape emotions, behavior, and relationships, drawing on her recovery from BPD. She reviews DBT's six-step Check the Facts skill and offers practical ways to question fearful assumptions, imagine coping, and gradually cultivate more peaceful thoughts.
Keywords
BPD recovery, DBT Check the Facts, cognitive reframing, emotion regulation, thoughts and emotions, mental health
Chapters
00:00 How recovery changed Rose's relationship with her thoughts
03:00 Elder Thaddeus: thoughts shape the life you build
06:20 Choose the thought that leaves room for patience
08:52 Why DBT's Check the Facts skill matters
11:19 Steps 1 and 2: name the emotion and describe the event
13:12 Step 3: test assumptions and consider other explanations
15:13 The rainbow metaphor for values and relationships
20:29 Steps 4 and 5: assess the threat and imagine coping
24:18 Step 6: decide whether the emotion fits the facts
24:45 Cultivate good thoughts one small choice at a time
Resources & Support
Book a session with Rose or Jay: thriveonlinecounseling.comCall/Text: 844-984-7483 (844-9-THRIVE)Podcast Website: thriveonlinecounseling.com
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