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Aug 11
12m 55s

Stop Asking For Feedback The Wrong Way

Susie Tomenchok
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Send us Fan Mail A senior leader wraps up a conversation and asks what they can do for you. You reach for the question you've been taught to ask. Where can I improve, and what are my blind spots? It feels like the responsible thing to say. But that question does something to the person across from you that you don't see happening in the moment, and by the ti ... Show More
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