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Apr 2025
31 m

The Real Reason You Freeze — And How to ...

Kwame Christian Esq., M.A.
About this episode

You’re not weak — your nervous system is just overwhelmed.


In this deeply practical episode, Kwame Christian sits down with coach and educator Jay Fields to unpack why so many of us lose ourselves in high-stakes conversations. Whether it’s people-pleasing, freezing, or shrinking to avoid conflict, Jay explains how your body’s responses hijack your ability to stay present — and what you can do about it.



You’ll learn:


  • The difference between conceptual and embodied self-awareness
  • How to stay connected to your truth in other people’s "force fields"
  • Practical tools to regulate your emotions and recover your voice in real time



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