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The Psychology of Reaching Out — and the...

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AJ and Johnny break down why reconnecting with old friends feels harder than it should — and why the hesitation isn’t rejection, it’s symmetry. Both people usually care. Both people assume the other doesn’t. And nothing happens. Drawing on behavioral research and social psychology, this episode explains how dormant friendships get miscategorized by the brai ... Show More
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