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Jan 14
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Dont call them what they really are, it ...

Paul Colaianni: Relationship and Emotional Abuse Expert
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Calling a duck a duck makes sense. But this logic works against you in the emotionally abusive relationship. Calling out an abusive person for who they are might just turn the whole thing around on you. 

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