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Aug 18
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Ep. 303 - When I stopped wanting my ex, ...

Breakup Coach Dorothy
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What happens when you finally stop obsessing over your ex, the one you thought would give you everything you ever wanted? In this episode, you'll hear from Braveheart alum Allison, who went from feeling deeply attached and convinced her ex was her only shot at the life she dreamed of… to no longer wanting him at all. And ironically, that's when everything shifted. Together, we unpack the trap of high desire and high attachment, how to loosen your grip without pretending you don't care, and the powerful analogy that changed everything for her healing. If you've ever felt stuck in the loop of "he was the best I'll ever get," this one will hit home and give you a new way out.

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