What happens when attachment makes love something you have to earn? Adam and Annie uncover how childhood trauma and disorganized attachment make people perform for love instead of feeling safe being real.
TOPICS COVERED:
👉 The hidden pain of growing up unseen and emotionally neglected👉 How childhood trauma leads to disorganized attachment👉 The difference ... Show More
Mar 2025
#181: The Demonisation of Avoidant Attachment (& Why It Has to Stop)
<p>In today’s episode, I’m diving into a topic that’s both close to my heart and foundational to how I approach this work: the widespread demonisation of avoidant attachment — and why we need to stop doing it.</p><p>It’s all too common, especially in online spaces, for people (of ... Show More
26m 39s
Apr 2024
A Man's Guide To Ending Fearful-Avoidant Attachment
<p>Talking points: attachment, psychology, mindset, relationships</p><p><br></p><p>Alright team, this is one of the biggest guides yet! There were a TON of requests to cover this one, so I happily obliged. This attachment style is also called "disorganized attachment", and I've w ... Show More
1h 6m
Jul 2025
#196: How & Why We Self-Abandon in Relationships
If you deeply fear abandonment, there’s a good chance you’ve also been abandoning yourself in quiet, subtle, and painful ways.In today’s episode, we’re exploring how fear of abandonment often leads to patterns of self-abandonment — especially for those with anxious attachment. We ... Show More
19m 8s
Jun 2025
#193: The Gifts of Anxious Attachment
<p>While it’s easy to focus on the struggles of anxious attachment — overthinking, people-pleasing, fear of abandonment — there are also real gifts that often go hand-in-hand with these attachment patterns. When held with awareness and intention, many of the traits we associate w ... Show More
12m 15s
Sep 10
EP 578: 3 Lies You Tell Yourself When You're Dating Someone with Avoidant Attachment Style
Dating someone with an avoidant attachment style can leave you second-guessing yourself, waiting for scraps of connection, and telling yourself stories that keep you in pain. I’ve been there, and I know how easy it is to cling to beliefs that feel comforting in the moment but ult ... Show More
48m 32s