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Oct 20
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Heal First, Love Better: The Repair Fram...

Lewis Howes
About this episode

Baya Voce opens up about the hidden cost of living in a world that promises everything without friction while our relationships demand the exact opposite. She shares the counterintuitive truth that bending over backwards in relationships isn't love, it's self-abandonment, and explains why most couples fail not because they fight, but because they never learned to repair properly. Through raw personal stories and research-backed frameworks, Baya breaks down the difference between accepting someone's limitations and enabling their dysfunction. This conversation will shift how you think about conflict forever, giving you practical tools to turn your messiest relationship moments into opportunities for genuine intimacy and growth.

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In this episode you will:

  • Discover why your nervous system needs friction to build resilience and how avoiding small conflicts actually creates bigger ones later
  • Transform your relationship arguments using the repair framework that stops the blame cycle before it spirals
  • Learn the critical difference between change and effort in partnerships and why confusing them keeps you stuck in resentment
  • Break free from the cultural myth that bending over backwards equals love and start setting boundaries without guilt
  • Master the art of staying present during emotional reactions instead of running away or people-pleasing your way through conflict

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