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Nov 2023
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8 Steps to Save Any Relationship & Stop ...

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About this episode

Have you ever found yourself comparing your current partner to someone from your past? 

Are you wondering why your current relationship isn’t as happy as it used to be?

If you’re currently struggling with keeping your relationship afloat, then this episode is for you. 

We all know that effective communication is the key to maintaining healthy connections, and I am here to guide us on how to better express our thoughts and concerns to our loved ones. Here's the first golden rule in improving your relationships – someone's past behavior doesn't define them today. And it's not just about their actions; it's about what you bring to the table as well. 

Let's take a look at crucial insights on how we tend to fill in the gaps with our own assumptions, the importance of asking the right questions, and why criticism rarely leads to positive change. And always consider the significance of seeing vulnerability as strength and not putting your loved ones down in public.

In this episode, you'll learn:

  • The reasons why relationships fail
  • How to avoid actions that ruin relationships
  • How to become a better listener
  • How to communicate yourself effectively

We're in for a heartfelt discussion that will surely help you strengthen your relationships and take a step closer to the happier, healthier connections you deserve.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 01:38 How to Better Communicate Issues in Your Relationship
  • 03:31 #1: Someone's Behavior Doesn’t Make Them The Same As Someone You Were With Before  
  • 09:01 #2: Don't Fill In Uncertainties Mentally
  • 13:26 #3: We All Have A Long List Of Needs
  • 18:12 #4: Ask Yourself These Three Questions
  • 20:38 #5: Criticism Doesn’t Help Change, Coaching Does
  • 23:27 #6: Seeing Opening Up As A Weakness 
  • 26:33 #7: Criticism Is Often Linked With Comparison
  • 27:20 #8: Don’t Put Them Down In Public

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