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May 2023
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#1 Reason Why Couples Fall Out of Love &...

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About this episode

Today, I am going to share with you a conversation I had with Kaitlyn Bristowe of the Off The Vine podcast. No matter what phase or stage of love you’re in or whether you find yourself in solitude, there is so much to take away from their discussion, from attracting the right person to putting a stop to unhealthy relationship patterns to defining what it actually means to be in love. The tangible tips and incredible insight from our dialogue is bound to alter your perception of love moving forward and maybe just change how you find, keep, and let go of love throughout your life.

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Key Takeaways:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 02:27 Do we need to wait for a specific day to express love and then forget about it?
  • 04:12 “We teach people about what to think about love but not how to think about love.”
  • 06:16 Where does the culture around love with the fairytale ending and the perfect match come from?
  • 08:31 How do you know that you are with the right person?
  • 11:09 Why are we so worried about being alone and finding someone to love?
  • 14:03 What can you do when you’re alone to attract the right person?
  • 16:36 “Loneliness is the weakness of being alone while solitude is the strength of being alone.” 
  • 21:56 Giving yourself into the process and allowing it to learn more about yourself
  • 24:13 The difference between “we need to get through this” and “we want to get through this”
  • 26:51 How do we stop making the same mistake over and over again?
  • 28:26 Why you shouldn’t avoid having fights and suppress your own feelings
  • 31:16 The difference between expressing anger and pain versus explaining them
  • 33:04 Avoid uncontrollable arguments and start having uncomfortable conversations
  • 35:47 How do you keep the love burning and keep the relationship strong?
  • 38:45 “You can have it all, just not all at the same time.”

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