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The Art of Good Communication

Ilana Dunn
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Conversations with the people we love can feel harder than ever, but small shifts in how we listen and speak can completely transform your connections. I talk with New York Times bestselling author Charles Duhigg (Supercommunicators, The Power of Habit) about how to navigate tricky conversations, build trust, and create deeper connection in dating, relationships, friendships, and family.

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