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May 2025
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176. The Attachment Cycle Explained (Why...

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In this episode, I’m diving into why we keep getting drawn to the same types of partners, even when those relationships don't work out or we keep getting hurt. I’ll break down the psychology behind attraction, how our early experiences and attachment styles play a huge role, and why it’s so damn hard to break those familiar patterns. I’m also sharing my own ... Show More
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