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Oct 3
1h 2m

Blindsided, Betrayed but Not Broken

Annalisa Bahadur
About this episode

Very little is more devasting  than the condition of being blindsided and betrayed by an avoidant attached persons. Sure they have their reasons but that doesn’t negate the pain their sudden exit cause when we are the ones left behind. 

In this episode, Sarah (name changed) shares her struggles to get through a breakup (divorce) with her ex and her determination to heal. We can all see ourselves in her story- we feel her pain and we root for her. 



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