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Oct 3
1h 2m

Blindsided, Betrayed but Not Broken

Annalisa Bahadur
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Very little is more devasting than the condition of being blindsided and betrayed by an avoidant attached persons. Sure they have their reasons but that doesn’t negate the pain their sudden exit cause when we are the ones left behind. In this episode, Sarah (name changed) shares her struggles to get through a breakup (divorce) with her ex and her determina ... Show More
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