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Oct 2024
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#422: How Long Does it REALLY Take To Ge...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
About this episode

Breakups are brutal. I know you're wondering, “How long will it take before I finally feel like myself again?” Trust me, you’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving deep into the million-dollar question: How long does it really take to get over a breakup? And, even more importantly, what do you need to DO in order to move forward and not get stuck in the past?

 I'm joined by Kendra Allen, the amazing host of Breakup Bestie, and together we unpack the factors that impact your healing timeline. Spoiler alert: it’s different for everyone! But we’ve got insights, personal stories, and actionable advice to help you make sense of your own process and feel more empowered as you heal.

We’re covering everything from how long it takes to feel "okay" again, to why some relationships hurt more than others, and how to know if you’re truly moving on. Plus, Kendra shares her journey of transformation after addiction and abusive relationships, offering you hope that growth is possible—even when it feels like the pain of heartbreak will never end.

Join us to learn about:

00:00 – The Hardest Question After a Breakup: How Long Will This Take?
05:40 – Kendra’s Story: From Addiction to Empowerment
12:19 – Why Some Breakups Take Longer to Heal Than Others
19:32 – The Emotional Rollercoaster: What Healing Really Looks Like
29:00 – Handling Triggers: Holidays, Anniversaries & More
37:15 – How to Know if You’re Truly Healing or Just Surviving
45:20 – Next Steps: Tools and Advice for Moving On

 

If you’re hurting after heartbreak, this one’s for you. Thanks for tuning in, and/or for sharing this episode with a friend or loved one who is feeling stuck in heartbreak, and needs some direction for how to move forward.

 

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

 

PS: Want to see how far along you are in your breakup recovery? Take my free quiz, How Over Your Ex Are You? 👉 Take the Quiz

Join me for a live Q&A this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube, where we’ll tackle the topic of Getting Over Your Ex. Submit your questions anonymously in advance ( Ask Here)

Or just jump into the conversation on Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube. See you there! 

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